If you have a daily schedule, and have no problems sticking to it, this article is not for you!
This is for those of us who find sticking to a set schedule challenging.
Not that I don’t have a schedule, because I do, I like to at least aim for something, but more often than not, I find myself wandering off of it. If I’m extra tired, or one of the kids is sick, if I’m sick, if we have doctor’s appointments, if the moon is full, etc…you know how it is. 😛
My #1 way I get more done is to Focus!
You know in real estate, you always hear “location” is everything. Location, Location, Location… And as far as getting more done during the day, I have to say “focus” is everything. So, Focus, Focus, Focus!
For the purpose of this article, this is how I’m defining and using the word, “focus:”
Divide chores/activities you want to accomplish into 15 minute segments, and then do that 15 minute chore/activity from start to finish, without getting sidetracked by something else (unless it’s an emergency).
As wives and mothers, we naturally have to wear so many different hats,
handyman (be able to fix toilets, computers, appliances…)
so multitasking is just par for the course. We obviously have lots of different types of jobs to do.
So when I say focus, I mean once you start a task, keep at it till it’s done. If one of your children needs you during that time, attend to them, but then come back and finish what you started.
Many times in the past (and even now sometimes), I would start folding a load of laundry in the morning, and at dinner time, that same load of laundry was still partially folded and sitting on the couch.
Because, I would start folding, and then realize I hadn’t gotten any meat out of the freezer to thaw for dinner, then noticed a popsicle stain on the carpet, then the dvd player wasn’t working for one of the kids, and I couldn’t find the cleaner disk, and while I was looking for that, somebody needed a diaper change, and the phone rang, and, and, and… you know how it goes, right!?
I started getting really frustrated that I couldn’t seem to get the simplest of tasks done before my hubby got home for dinner, and there would be laundry and toys everywhere, and if anyone came to the door, I panicked because everything was in disarray.
I didn’t really have a specific “light bulb” moment, but I started telling myself, that
it didn’t have to be all or nothing
when it came to my home. My perfectionistic personality was telling me that, but it wasn’t healthy, and I would just tend to want to give up, sit on the couch and read a book, because it was futile anyway.
Even my parents’ generation proclaimed, “If you can’t do a job right, don’t do it at all,” and in some ways, I disagree with that.
For instance, should you not do any dishes, because the groceries still aren’t put away, or any laundry because there are toys everywhere, and the house is still going to be cluttered, so what’s the use, and it’s just all overwhelming anyway…?
No. No. No.
This is where the focus comes in. Do SOMETHING. Do a load of laundry, fold it and put it away, and don’t get distracted till you’re done.
I’m not saying if there’s an emergency, and your child needs you, ignore them, I’m talking about everything else that we get sidetracked with, thinking it needs our immediate attention.
Yes, even if you’ve still got 200 other things that need to be cleaned.
It’s not in vain.
You’ll feel so good accomplishing and finishing a task, plus it seems to be a catalyst for getting other things done too, like, ok, I got that done, what else can I do in 10 or 15 minutes time, if I just focus and do a job from start to finish…how about the dishes, or a quick dusting, or sweeping or vacuuming.
In you mind, break chores up into 10-15 minutes sections, so you can finish it in that amount of time. If you want to keep going, great, but I think it’s helpful for some of us to know that, ok, if I want to stop in 15 minutes, I can.
For instance, in 15 minutes I can either:
clean the toilets in 2 bathrooms
scrub the tub and shower
clean the counters and sinks in 2 bathrooms
load the dishwasher and wipe down the counters
put away the school books and sweep the floor
dust and vacuum the living room
fold and put away a load of laundry
clear the clutter from 2 areas
Think how much better things would look with just those tasks!
If you’re wondering where a good place to start is, when you have lots of household chores that need to get done,
the first household tasks I focus on getting to each day are dishes and laundry,
otherwise things can fall apart quickly. Family members don’t have clean clothing they need, and it’s difficult to prepare meals in a messy kitchen… Then with leftover time I can prioritize the rest of my chores and activities as I go.
Focusing is also wonderful when applied to time with your children as well, and being fully in the moment.
I’ve been a mother for the last 20 years, and unfortunately many times, I’ve found that I spent more time making excuses as to why I didn’t have time to “play, color, read…” with one of my children, than it would actually take to sit down, do their chosen activity, focus, have fun, and make a memory.
I’m not saying only spend 15 minutes doing an activity with your children. I’m saying, that even when your days are full of “to do’s,” stop once in a while during the day, and completely
focus on being mentally present with your kids,
and purpose in your mind to stick with it for at least 15 minutes. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate activity, how about just putting together a puzzle with them, snuggling on the couch talking, taking them outside and swinging on the swing, or shooting a basketball, or drawing with chalk on the driveway for 15 minutes.
I’ve always enjoyed reading to my kids (I even used to read to my mom while she cleaned), so each year we pick out books to read, and I read a chapter a day. I’ve learned even if the house is cluttered, it won’t do any harm to stop what I’m doing, cuddle on the couch, and read to them for 15 minutes.
Do you see the benefit? For some of us, if we don’t focus and purpose to do it, another day slips by.
The older I get, the more I realize I need to seize the moments!
Of course there are still chores to be done, and loved ones to be fed, and dinner time has always been a challenge, since that seems to be
the crescendo of the day.
That’s why I advocate menu planning so much on here, because that time of day goes 10x’s smoother when that’s taken care of.
But if I’m looking around that last hour before my husband’s going to walk through the door, and there’s chaos and clutter, in my mind I break the hour down into 15 minute segments, and prioritize what needs to get done, and get the kids involved too.
I’ll say to myself, before he gets home I want to have that load of laundry on the couch folded and put away, the shoes in the entry put away or tidied up, the coffee table cleaned off, the school books put away, or whatever… and it’s amazing what you can get done with a little Focus.
You know how it is when company is coming over,
and you seem to get so much more done in a much shorter amount of time, same concept, it’s the focus and the urgency behind it. When you say to yourself, I’m getting XYZ done in 15 minutes, you’re creating your own urgency! 🙂
The 15 minute focus can also apply to when you need some personal time throughout the day to calm down, relax, pray, read your Bible, have a cup of tea, clear your head…That’s very important and necessary too!
This strategy is so helpful when your current life experiences, energy level or whatever, make sticking to a schedule really challenging, because you can still makes lots of productive headway each day, get things done, have that sense of accomplishment, and meet the most important needs of those around you as well.
Now let’s see what I can go and get done in 15 minutes! 🙂
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